Updated: Aug 1
I want to tell you a story that illustrates the importance and power of "letting all resistance go and to become visible and purposeful” in your life moving forward. This is about Janine's journey, and how she managed to make radical lifestyle changes, which ultimately led her to inspiring so many others.
This story is important because it points out that when you find the courage and creativity to do something just a little bit different and truly connect with one of your challenging habits, you can create small wonders.
Here’s what happened ...
I offer group coaching online for many adults (men and women) with emotional problems, lots of us struggling to find our balance in this crazy and busy world.
Janine had joined one of my one day workshops, she was extremely empathic; open to picking up on everyone’s vibes and would have done anything for anyone. She had a hard life growing up, and been through some tough times, until she became invisible to herself.
It was easier to take abuse from others, make sure her children were OK, but refusing to see herself as the strong woman she was! She really went deep into her many layers of protection, which eventually became a habit, and she wore her shield so no-one could be cruel, vindictive or upset her anymore.
She had a stealthy quality to her, and she often had a scowl on her face, as if she was in on some bad news the rest of us hadn't heard yet. But her most noteworthy trait was that she simply didn’t want anyone to see her.
I had no need to push her into opening up, and I decided to take a different approach. She is already very open to intuition.
Ø I didn’t try to tell her she was “good enough”. She needed to build her confidence to trust that she has and always will be good enough.
Ø I did not try to psychoanalyze Janine. (There were plenty of medical doctors around to do that already.)
Ø I did not frown with disapproval over her wanting to remain invisible (That obviously hadn't been working either.)
Ø I decided not to make her feel different for not initially interacting, for just listening and breathing and finding her natural flow.
So what did I do?
Well, for starters, I simply decided to accept her where she was. I made her feel just as welcome in our group coaching as everyone else. And here was the key – I didn't take that approach as any sort of "agenda" or "strategy." I wasn't just being nice to her so that I could later corner her into a heart-to-heart talk about wanting to remain invisible.
I simply treated her nicely, with respect, like she was any other beautiful soul.
It would have been nice if this worked overnight, but trust is sort of like Rome: you can't build it in a day. It took a long time for Janine to see that I was for real, that I wasn't going to engage her in an emotional tug-of-war.
As I've already pointed out, nothing you try with your clients will work without a solid personal connection. Trust is earned.
So how could I connect with a woman who had lost all her self confidence and couldn’t see there was goodness for her too?
Well, for one thing, I paid closer attention to what was important to Janine. I noticed small things and filed them away in my head.
It didn't take long to find a few things. For one thing, it was obvious that fairness was important to Janine. If someone was not truthful, and old habits stood forward, I saw Janine standing up for herself, slowly and surely.
I also discovered that she has such intuition that she could read people, and encouraged her, at the right time, to push forward, there was no pressure put on her, just encouragement to find her balance, align with her true feelings and start to see herself again.
As I did this with Janine, she started to shine, my mind was spinning feeling excited, that she was beginning to trust she was stronger and the last year she has gone from strength to strength.
Now, I can't tell you precisely how much impact I had on Janine, I think as a Mindset Coach, it’s a lot like time-release tablets. We don't always see the real, lasting impact we make on our clients.
But I have to feel that my decision to respect Janine, and give her "her space" had something to do with her breakthrough in this past year. I'm happy to report that Janine has excelled, grown as a beautiful soul, found her calling and stands strong in her full voice to her future.
I will be the first to admit that what I did was based on my raw instincts and a willingness to try something different. Every single person is different, we have different needs.
Of course, now that I have repeated this kind of process over the years with countless other clients, each one individual with their own reflections, and now that these techniques have been validated by my clients all over the world, I can safely say that creating connections and "letting all resistance go are part of my “Intention, Goal & Destination” universal principle that I totally commit myself and my clients to.
And that is just one of the valuable techniques and strategies I share in my 1-2-1 Coaching and Group Coaching for my clients.
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Until next time,
The Intuitive Coach